Hi Jeff,

I really appreciate your thoughtful response to my article — thanks for taking the time to read it carefully, and to give me your thoughts.

Re your points — I agree that it may have been a misstep to label the stepson so negatively at that early point in the article. It was influenced, however, by what I believe is a substantial argument supporting the rape claim. In my jurisdiction — Queensland, Australia — our Criminal Code Act 1899 (Qld) s 349(2) states: A person rapes another person if the person penetrates the vulva, vagina or anus of the other person to any extent with a thing or a part of the person’s body that is not a penis without the other person’s consent; or the person penetrates the mouth of the other person to any extent with the person’s penis without the other person’s consent. The meaning of consent is defined in s 348(2) of the same act: a person’s consent to an act is not freely and voluntarily given if it is obtained — (e) by false and fraudulent representations about the nature or purpose of the act. Misrepresentations about the compensation offered for the act — i.e. fraud — abrogates consent, if I’m reading this act correctly.

Now, this isn’t to say that he is a rapist in the sense usually ascribed to the word — but I think there is a significant issue about consent here. If she had known that the compensation would not be delivered, she wouldn’t have performed the act.

EDIT: I just saw on your profile that you are a retired attorney. I would be interested to hear your take on my interpretation, given your experience!

On the second point, that’s totally fair — the arguments I propose here don’t totally apply to that version of the step-fantasy. This is admittedly a pretty specific ideology critique. I committed to it, though, on the basis that one sees it repeated throughout pornography — though of course, I wouldn’t say that it is anywhere near a universal phenomenon.

Again, thanks for reading, and I hope we can talk again about my writing in the future!


writer for realtime CEO, the startup and noteworthy. politics, philosophy, economics.

writer for realtime CEO, the startup and noteworthy. politics, philosophy, economics.